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Learning to deal with Grief....The Grief Recovery Method®
Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss. The problem is that we are taught how to deal with grief in an intellectual way. Grief is an emotion and cannot be fixed using rational argument. For instance, after a death, people may say “don’t get upset, she’s out of pain/ in a better place now”. This may be technically or rationally true, but it’s emotionally useless to us.
Unresolved grief will leave us with powerful and destructive emotions: sadness, pain, isolation and hopelessness. Sometimes these feelings and their cause can be buried for years.
The Six Myths
People will say things (usually with the best of intentions) after we have suffered a loss that are largely unhelpful and even hurtful – they have learnt these responses from an early age. There are six myths associated with loss identified by the founder of the Grief Recovery Method, John James:
•Time heals all wounds
•Replace the loss
•Be strong for others
•Don’t feel bad
The ‘Time Heals all Wounds’ myth is particularly unhelpful – all time does is pass, it’s actions that you take during time that determines how completely you are able to recover. Happily, there is a way forward. The Grief Recovery Method® has been developed over the last 30 years to enable us to deal with emotions associated with or grief and to live happy and fulfilled lives.
What is the Grief Recovery Method®?
It is a programme of small steps designed and tested to enable the griever to complete all the unresolved emotions associated with the loss they have experienced. It is a practical and straightforward action plan.
It is not:
• Alternative Treatment
There are several ways you can learn the Grief Recovery Method® – either in a supportive group, or on a one to one basis – led by a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®. Unresolved grief is a powerful and pervasive force and the Grief Recovery Method® therefore needs you to be emotionally honest and committed to the process. Those around you will often say you have to ‘let go’ and ‘move on’ but they don’t tell you how. The Grief Recovery Method® gives you the understanding, structure and support to move forward with your life with renewed hope ensure this happens.
You can find out more by clicking here for the UK Grief Recovery Method® Site
What do people say?
"It has made a huge difference, in giving me the tools to work with and have a better understanding of how to deal with loss.
I feel that I can now move forward and the programme has enabled me to do that."
"Making that first phone call was the most difficult I have ever made. It was also one of the most important."
"You made me feel relaxed and able to be completely open and talk about very personal feelings without feeling uncomfortable or awkward which I didn’t think was possible with someone I had just met."
"I am now able to understand the feelings that my losses have brought to my life and using the tools I have learned, to manage them in a positive way."
"The process is easy to follow and had a natural flow. Having someone supporting you through it really helps. I would recommend anyone considering it to get in contact and learn more about what is involved."
"It’s helped me understand that when someone dies, it doesn’t end the relationship. It’s made me realise that I was fixated on how
the person died, not the relationship I had with them."
No matter how recent or long ago your loss, if you want to take the first steps away from pain and towards renewed happiness, please contact me and I can tell you more:
Phone: 01263 514642
Mobile: 07757 157013
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